That's an interesting PS, and I wonder if it's actually related to something that is getting in your way that you aren't seeing? (Though I feel both of those!)
But also I think (a) we're in something of a tech downturn at this moment and (b) 'coding' and some parts of dev have become insecure blue-ish collar jobs.
I retired.
I went into solutions architecture (known elsewhere as sales engineering) at AWS. It pays way better and I don't have to compete with people 25 years younger than me who will work for $10/hr on the other side of the world.